I believe the children are our future.
I wrote the following post in June.
My oldest child has just turned 21.
Rereading this post has had an impact on me, especially the last 4 lines.
Many of the things I included here are things my children have said, sometimes paraphrased and sometimes not.
No matter how old they are, they will always be our children and no matter how young they are, they are our greatest teachers, if we stop and listen.
I believe the children are our are future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be
I believe the children are our future.
I also believe that I have learned far more from my children than I could ever teach them.
My children have reminded me of who I truly am.
Living alongside of them, I have found my way back to my true self.
It is a journey.
It is a process.
I know my children have helped me along my journey.
I believe our souls are connected.
On a spiritual level, we guide each other and have connections far beyond our current human condition.
I have learned many things from my children and I continue to learn more every day.
I have been a mother for more than 20 years and look forward to all I will continue to learn from my children throughout our current life time together.
Things I have learned from my children:
- STOP, and slow down and pay attention to things around you
- Reading together before bed is a good habit
- Eat when you are hungry and sleep when you are tired
- Hugs and kisses are good medicine
- Laughter is the best medicine
- Follow your passion
- Be who you are and don’t apologize for it
- Speak the truth, speak your truth
- How we talk to people matters as much as what we say to them
- Respect is a two-way street
- If you love to dance, then dance as much as you can
- Reading a great book is more fun when read along with a friend(s)
- Satoshi Tajiri created Pokémon
- Persistence is challenging to parents but is valued by employers
- Hiking heals the soul
- The view at the top of the mountain is worth climbing past the danger sign
- The first time at the beach is the best time
- Going to the beach is even more fun with children
- Digging in the sand is calming and satisfying
- Straws kill sea turtles
- Don’t let people tell you that you can not hike 20 miles in one hike
- If you love hiking, don’t allow people to convince you to be a swimmer or a biker
- Learning to ride a bike is not required
- School changes how you look at learning
- Life experience is more meaningful than a college degree
- Don’t waste your time trying to be something that you are not
- Music speaks a multigenerational language
- We can do anything we set our minds to
- You can overcome severe anxiety and earn 2 gold medals in your first Tae Keon Do Tournament
- You are more than your anxiety
- You are more than your mental illness
- You are more than any illness
- You are not your illness
- I have Bipolar Depression, I am NOT bipolar
- People have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, they are NOT OCD
- Mental illnesses are not adjectives
- Being creative can be very messy
- There is beauty is messy
- Dogs love us unconditionally
- Animals are people too
- All lives matter
- Climbing up the slide can be as much fun as going down the slide
- There is always time for one more hug
- Snuggle time is the best way to fall asleep and the best way to wake up
- Relationships are more important than accomplishments
- It is important to admit when you are wrong
- Your biological age does not define who you are nor what you can do
- Your biological gender does not define who you are or what you can do
- Love is love
- It is never too late
- You are never too old
- There is no set age to learn anything
- We need to listen more and talk less
- Our actions speak louder than our words
- If we want to teach anything, than we need to be an example of what we want to teach
- We teach what we most need to learn
- Children are closer to God and often have far more wisdom than adults
- Patience is the most important skill we need in parenting
- We are energy
- Our energy affects the people around us
- We are creative beings
- It does not matter how you hold your pencil
- Not everyone draws a straight line first
- You can learn to spell without any formal school and without spelling tests
- You don’t need to go to school to learn to read and to write
- If you force people to learn something, they might grow to hate it
- If you allow people to learn what they are interested in, they will retain the information much longer than any required learning
- Arielle is my daughter’s favorite Disney princess
- Girls can like trucks and boys can like flowers
- Children’s clothes are sadly gender stereotyping
- Boys can be quiet, calm and focused and girls can be physical and tough
- Children of the same gender, can be as different as children of different genders
- Not all boys like to play with guns and wrestle with other boys
- Some girls hate the color pink
- Colors don’t have gender
- The length of our hair does not define our gender but many people think that way
- Theater and acting is a great way to learn many life skills
- Theater brings people together
- Theater thrives on diversity
- Sometimes, life just sucks
- Watching your father nearly die, can be as scary and frightening and troubling as having a parent who dies
- When your guts tells you that your children will need support from a traumatic experience, listen to your gut
- Trauma can be trapped inside of us for years and manifest different for different people
- Being happy all the time is not realistic nor healthy
- Being highly intelligent is as challenging in this world as having a lower than average IQ
- Our children have knowledge and understanding far beyond their years
- We are not born “blank slates”
- Dogs are therapeutic
- We can’t solve problems for our children
- Our children are living their own lives
- Patience is the most important skill we need as parents and in life
- Take time for what is important
- Decide what is important to you
- Take a nap when your body is tired
- You can make up your story as you go
- You can change your mind about your favorite color
- You can change your mind about many things
- Walk barefoot sometimes
- Go outside when it is snowing no matter what time of day it is
- I love making snowmen
- I am more committed to making a snowman than my children are
- The best way to take care of my children, is to take care of myself
- I am a better mother when I am writing and journaling
- I am a better mother when I take time for myself, alone
I am more in touch with my true self now after being a mother for more than 20 years, then I have been in a long time. The last time I felt this in touch with myself, I was 11 or 12 years old.
Living life alongside my children and learning along with them, has been a large part of my journey back to myself.
I could write volumes on all I continue to learn from my children. I just need to remember to stop, listen, and pay attention to them.